So I think some suggestions are in order. I have talked in the past about making your marriage your first priority. That makes sense to most people. I understand a blended family situation can feel more complicated and in some cases is more delicate than a traditional nuclear family. That being said, I thought I’d provide some suggestions to making your marriage your first priority.
1. Slow down. At least sometime during the day slow down. It’s even better to do it with the TV off and with your phone not in your face. Picture this: a good bye peck that takes two seconds versus a goodbye kiss where you feel the texture of each other’s lips – that takes five seconds. Are you really in that big of a hurry? If the kiss feels like an obligation try again, this time slower. Then make eye contact on your way out the door. This really could be the last time you see your spouse alive – make it count. This will allow you to give your spouse your undivided attention.
My high school buddy and renowned business coach Dave Crenshaw is constantly reminding people that to be more efficient, you should focus on one thing at a time.
2. Be aware of the contagious effect your emotions have on others. There is some research that suggests our moods can be contagious. You don’t say. Well I think anecdotally, many of us have observed this. We all know someone that enters a room and they just seem to light it up or suck the life out of the room. Well, think about the impact you have on your spouse. I don’t suggest you pretend to be happy all of the time, but when you feel you can help the culture in the room, do it in a positive way.Would you like more ideas on how to make your marriage your first priority? Let me review the Covey matrix. If you are not familiar with the matrix, it looks like this: